Day Three – “A Word that Describes You”.
Hmmm. I initially wanted to go with stubborn, but given that this is supposed to be a positive exercise and my stubbornness has often gotten me in trouble I’m going to go with a different word instead.
I’m fiercely loyal. I stand by the people I care about through thick and thin. I’m that person who checks up on you twenty-five times after you’ve gone through something bad, just to make sure you aren’t putting on a front or things haven’t suddenly gone downhill. I’m the person who will defend you in your absence, even if it gets me in more trouble. I’m not afraid to let you know I care. It’s common for me to send random texts or even handwrite letters detailing my thoughts about how much I care. Some people don’t know how to take it, but I’d rather make someone a little uncomfortable than for something to happen to me and them never know how I felt. I think this is important – for me especially – because I’m not the touchy-feely type, and I feel like people think because of that I’m cold and indifferent to them, which isn’t correct at all.
On the flip side, if you wrong me or stab me in the back (which has happened more often than I’d like to admit in the past twelve months), I will never trust you, and never defend you. I don’t have time for people like that. I’m a very trusting person by nature, and it really hurts when you haven’t done anything to someone (well, nothing you’re aware of) and out of the blue, they basically give the middle finger to your friendship. From my experience, it’s because if they do that, they gain some advantage – in their career, in other friendships. I don’t care what the advantage is, backstabbing a friend is unforgivable. I guess I find it so heinous because of my loyalty, and because I’d never even consider doing that. If someone has done something to offend or upset me, I want to talk it out, or ignore it for a little while until the hurt passes, then go back to normal. I would never throw someone under a bus out of anger or for gain. I couldn’t sleep at night if I did.
Anyway, that’s why I picked loyalty. It’s a trait of mine I hold above pretty much anything else, and I wouldn’t change it for the world.